안녕하세요, family and friends. Today, let’s talk about 5 lessons I learnt whilst living by myself.
A few may know this about me, but I’m practically living alone. I say practically, because I do have other people living under the same roof. However, we usually keep to ourselves and don’t really talk much to each other. Unless, I’m doing rounds for the house bills.
Is that sad?
Personally, I am loving my new lifestyle. It may sound selfish to some but to me it’s very liberating. Living alone has its ups and downs, for sure, much like any other lifestyle. Any other time, I probably wouldn’t choose to live alone but having this time for myself…
Revealed a side of me that was already there but just needed a little push to fully shape up.
So, what are the 5 things I’ve learnt from living by myself.
The obvious one is it’s very peaceful.
I am the eldest sibling of three and our family has always been very loud. Our dinner tables, morning tables or lunch tables are always filled with noise. Growing up, I was also always around my cousins, there were 5 of them, all guys.
So, living by myself have been calm. This was the first time I was able to truly live the quiet life and I’m all for it. No, feeling like I’m at a circus when they are quarrels. I can basically sing my heart out as loud as I can without hearing the words ‘shut up please’.
It’s amazing! However, I will be lying if I didn’t acknowledge the fact that there are times when I miss the chaos. It’s not very often that I do, but when that slump hits… it’s distressing.
Little to No Distractions
This is one of the things that I would say is a huge pro, especially if you work from home or have online classes.
I know a few of my friends who attended summer classes with full online lectures. They told me that it was hard for them to fully focus in doing their activities because of chores and younger siblings.
Living by myself took the distraction of other people calling your name and asking you to help with house errands, when in an online lecture. However, we all know that that’s not the only distraction you could have when you work from home or have online classes.
We have our own distractibility scale, and some may not be fazed with or without people around.
Your decision-making skills will be put to the test
When you’re living by yourself, every decision is yours to make and take. Of course, you can always ask some friends, family or a sales person for help if you’re having a hard time choosing. In the end, it still boils down to your own decision.
You are the only person who’s going to live with it. So, you’re going to learn how to choose smart.
Doing inventory and finances are fun
Personally, I’ve always put off doing inventory and sorting out my finances as a daily or monthly thing. It makes me feel like I’m taking responsibility. You might be thinking, isn’t that a good thing?
It is a good thing, but have you ever heard of smart shaming? If you haven’t it’s basically when people, make you feel ashamed of being smart. [I’ll talk about this in a separate post in detail]
One thing I’ve learnt though, after playing around with Excel, doing inventory and finances are fun. Of course, what I’m doing is very basic and personal, which is probably why it’s not as stressful as others may think.
Living by yourself…
It has been very helpful with my mental health, to some extent. I was able to slow down, step back and think. A lot. About myself, my relationships, my goals and what I can do to help others. Hence, my blogging journey was kickstarted again.
I’ve always been dependent on other people. I may not admit to it but I am. In the two years I’ve spent living by myself, I’ve learnt to be more independent. Without needing another person’s presence for me to feel motivated. Keeping my business to myself and not getting other people’s noses in it.
It’s new and it’s amazing.
All in all, I’ve always wanted to experience living by myself. Now that I have, I love it. It’s what I need right now and I’m truly grateful for being able to experience solitude. Experience it in a way that I know would make me wish for it, when I finally live with someone again.